dandelion

Hi, I’m dandelion (they/them). I am genderqueer, mad, multiply disabled/crip, and chronically ill, navigating degenerative conditions that shape my work. My lifelong relationship with grief and suicidal ideation informs my deep commitment to care, not as a way out of suffering but as a way to be witnessed in it.

I have grieved loved ones in both traumatic and tender ways, bearing witness to death and loss as something to be carried rather than overcome. My experience advocating for my disabled, mad mother within oppressive systems has shaped my understanding of care and survival. 

My work is about creating spaces of belonging, dignity, and autonomy for those abandoned by institutional care. I believe grief is political, madness is wisdom, and community care is the foundation of a world where we do not have to fight to be seen.

My Work:

I am committed to reimagining end-of-life care, grief support, and community death care through a lens of justice, accessibility, and radical love. I believe death, like life, should be held in collective hands—no one should grieve or die alone, and our care for the dying should reflect our love, resistance to isolation, and commitment to dignity for all.

I reject exclusionary, hyper-medicalized death care systems, instead centering autonomy, ritual, and deep communal tending. Grief is not something to "fix" but to be witnessed and integrated. I offer care as a companion, not a guide—holding space for loss without imposing timelines or solutions.

My work includes threshold companionship for those navigating deep grief, trauma, psychiatric abuse, and medical harm. I also offer suicide doula work, approaching it with non-carceral, non-coercive care that affirms autonomy and dignity.

I hold particular space for queer and trans communities, recognizing that traditional grief structures often fail us. Queer death work is both a refusal and an offering—rejecting erasure and capitalist control over mourning while creating spaces of ritual, storytelling, and collective holding. My work ensures that in death and grief, we are met with dignity, agency, and care that reflects who we truly are.